Save yourself…serve others!

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The power of human connection and the burden to serve showed up early this morning as I invested my time to teach a young boy English. Today was one of those days that reminded me that every experience I have been given is a God given opportunity to make a difference in this great big world. As I opened my camera to teach a lesson from the comfort of my home in North Carolina, an 11 year old boy from China began our lesson in a state of sadness. He freely discussed the deadly virus spreading in China and how it affected him and his family. News reports refer to the virus as a “super spreader” virus as 1 patient has been reported to have infected 14 health care workers. I took a moment to validate his feelings and offer a bit of comfort. The greater burden for me was also knowing that in a few days China will celebrate the biggest holiday of the year, ūüßßChinese New Year. Chinese New Year is a time of family connection, feasting, gift giving, and celebrating…much like Christmas in the USA. Interestingly, in one of my classes on yesterday, another young boy I taught informed me of a cancelled trip to go skiing in Beijing due to the spread of the virus. Just days before, we had a lesson and he was telling me how excited he was to go skiing in Beijing for the winter holiday and in celebration of Chinese New Year. He even jokingly said, “I don’t want to die or anything.” in our conversation. Although jokingly expressed, I knew there was a bit of truth to his words as the news reports continue to track the number of deaths occurring in Wuhan, China.

Why did this affect me? Why was this presented to me? I believe God wanted me first to take the focus off of me! I have been so overwhelmed with “problems” I have lost track of what is really important to God…and what is really important to me, serving others. This is precisely what the enemy wants, to get us off track and make us lose focus. I am realizing my prayers have been misdirected. I have prayed enough about myself that God knows exactly what I need and desire. I know that serving others whether through my time, monies, prayers, a hug, kind words, etc. is my ministry. Today as I offer my ministry to the people of China, particularly in Wuhan, I send prayers of protection, healing, and a God-given cure to stop the spread of this disease, not only in China but in the USA and other countries as well where this virus has been reported. I decree, “No weapon formed against us will be able to prosper!”

As you read about my experience, let your spirit ignite a fire to serve others as well. Let your heart be reminded how good God is to you and how many things seen and unseen he protects you from daily. Let not your heart be troubled by the problems that you currently face, but decide today to release your burdens to God and serve others until your heart is full. Have faith that what you need and desire is already taken care of. I have found that when I serve others, I ultimately end up saving myself.

Happy serving!

Dr. TC

The Importance of Journaling

Writing can be a very powerful outlet for thoughts and emotions. Sometimes it’s easier to formulate thoughts on paper versus speaking. My hypothesis is because it takes more time for a thought to travel from your head to your hand than from your head to your mouth, there is more time to process the thought before it comes out. Thank God for biology. Ha!

When it comes to challenging times in life I particularly find writing is more healing than speaking. When life is frustrating and overwhelming it is more difficult to guard my tongue against speaking negative words about my situation. But, when I write I tend to take more time to reflect and connect with God before releasing my pen to transcribe my thoughts. My thoughts are clearer and I can really “hear” myself as I read my own written thoughts. I also like the “eraser” feature when I write. What comes out that I regret, I simply erase and change my written thought. The words I speak I can’t take back so easily. (SN: Wouldn’t it be cool to have the ability to “erase” certain words we speak about ourselves and others instantly?? At least we have repentance!)

In my career as a mental health therapist, I often encourage my clients to journal in between sessions. Sometimes it is guided journaling activities with a specific task to do, other times I request spontaneous journaling writing activities about a particular experience or emotion. Journaling is initially challenging for those novice journal writers. Yet journaling has always been healing to my clients who follow my guidance.

I keep hearing, somebody needs to speak less and pick up a pen and write more! Somebody needs to release pinned up pain, anger, frustration, and fear in a safe way. Just write! Release your thoughts. Write your dreams. Write your vision. Write your prayers. I love that God also reads our writings in the same way He hears our prayers.

Happy Journaling,

Dr. TC

The Passionate Parent

I’m passionate about a few things in life and parenting is one of them. As I observe myself in my role as ‚Äúmommy” I realize my connection to my role runs deep. I do believe I didn’t just happen to get pregnant but was assigned the role by God. What God entrusts me with I take very seriously…wife, mom, ministry leader, etc. In the roles I’ve been assigned I go all in! I give and give and give. I serve and serve and serve. I prioritize and prioritize and prioritize.

As a passionate parent, I believe children are not objects but subjects. They have thoughts, feelings, and opinions. I understand that appropriate guidance helps children understand and properly express their thoughts, feelings, and opinions, but they should never be dismissed…no matter the age of the child. I respect what my two year old thinks and feels and I hope to provide the same respect when he’s twelve.

As a passionate parent, I believe children have a connection with God that is more pure than adults. Why? Because their connection is not yet fully controlled by man. This is why I believe children are more resilient and can forgive more easily than adults, because of their innocent, pure connection to God, even if they don’t fully know who He is. It saddens me to experience children who have been tainted by man very early in life. I’ve experienced one recently whom I strongly believe had been taught it’s ok to disrespect others who don’t have what they have…white skin. My young black son just happened to be the victim of this experience and he’s only two!

As a passionate parent, I believe in holding, touching and showing affection to my child. Human touch is essential for development. Children who lack human touch become savages. They suffer in their emotional and physical development. I can’t understand why some people get offended when they observe someone else holding their baby. I’ve heard such phrases as “she’s holding that baby too much” “she needs to put that baby down” “that baby is going to be spoiled rotten”. I believe babies are not capable of being spoiled. Do they get used to human touch and being held and expect it? Yes! Does this mean they are spoiled? No! Even as an adult, when I think about God as my father, I expect God to always be there. I expect Him to hold me when I need comforting or feel lonely. And He does just that for all of us from the time we are born to when we die. So why do some of us offer less than what God gives us to our own babies? Why do we withhold good things from our children for fear of “spoiling them”. Fear is not of God. As a passionate parent, I make physical contact with my child as often as I can and I allow him to make connection with me as often as he needs it. Because children have not yet developed the language as adults, when my child says “I want to hold you.” (Translation: He wants me to hold him), I oblige because I may not know just how healing and comforting my touch is to my child in that moment. I simply trust the process and the power of human touch.

As a passionate parent, I constantly put my child’s needs before my own even if it hurts me. Isn’t that what Jesus did on the cross? I am willing to sacrifice my needs and desires to first help my child accomplish his needs and desires. As a passionate parent, I intentionally seek opportunities that give my son the most creative and diverse experiences in life. This is why I am planning to homeschool. I want to be guided by the Holy Spirit on how to shape his mind. I get to decide the curriculum. I get to decide the pacing. I get to decide the learning experiences. This is not because I desire to be in control, but I believe homeschooling would better ensure God’s in control. As a passionate parent, I don’t want my child’s learning to be limited by curriculum or grade level.

I’m a passionate parent who takes my role as parent very seriously. I admire other parents who have gone before me and I hope to inspire parents-to-be to parent without fear but with confidence…to parent with unconditional love…to parent with grace…to be a forgiving parent for themselves and their child(ren)…to parent from their own strengths…to parent keeping God first…to parent from a position of influence not power.

Happy parenting! Dr. TC

Becoming Great

Recently, I have been spending time studying and observing people who seemingly operate in “greatness”. I say seemingly because I have a biased perspective of what makes a person “great”. My perspective is limited to my definition of “greatness”. However, the Bible clearly defines God’s greatness, and that same greatness is in us…all of us as God’s creation. God’s definition of greatness as outlined in the Bible should be our measuring stick not our own definition. For instance, the Bible declares in Deuteronomy 28:12-13 (NIV), “The Lord will open the heavens, the storehouse of his bounty, to send rain on your land and in season and to bless all the work of your hands. You will lend to many nations but will borrow from none. The Lord will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the Lord your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) states, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” 1 Peter 2:9 (NIV) states, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” Romans 8:37 (NIV) states, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

Another one of my favorite passages in the Bible that gives reference to God’s greatness is the Prayer of Jabez. While reading this prayer I envision Jabez stretching out his arms as wide as they can go to symbolize his territory being enlarged by God. I also envision Jabez’s outstretched arms as a symbolization of God’s greatness being expanded on the earth through one man. When we enlarge our territory we are essentially asking God to expand our greatness in Him to all the ends of the earth. Let’s take a look at the scripture. Try stretching out your arms as you read this passage to experience a sense of God’s greatness being enlarged in you. 1 Chronicles 4:10 (NIV) states:

“Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, ‘Oh that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.’ And God granted his request.”

Jabez’s prayer is also significant because in verse 9 the Bible indicates that Jabez’s mother named him Jabez meaning “I gave birth to him in pain.” In the very next verse Jabez lifts up this powerful prayer to God. Jabez’s name did not indicate anything great about him per se. However, through the power of prayer, Jabez made a request of God to add His power to his pain and use him for His greatness.

Becoming great requires us to be PREPARED for greatness, POSITIONED for greatness, and POSTURED for greatness. Jabez prepared himself for greatness by asking God for protection from harm and pain. He was preparing his spirit for disappointments, fear, and unavoidable evil. He positioned himself for greatness by asking God to take His rightful position over all the works of his hands. Finally, Jabez was postured for greatness by willingly approaching God in a posture of prayer.

Greatness is in us. As believers, it is up to us to tap into what we already possess. God granted us with a gift…His Greatness!

Let’s decree and declare God’s greatness over our lives every day. Remember you have the gift of greatness and your gift will make room for you! Listen to this powerful decree of God’s greatness daily (audio clip found below). Memorize it. Recite it with power and authority and watch God move in your life in powerful ways! Dare to be Great!

Dr. TC

Gift of Greatness Decree (audio clip)

Job openings for Transition! Are you ready to apply?

toa-heftiba-510008-unsplashJob Title: Transition

Open date: NOW!

Closing date: You determine.

Job description: God is hiring people who are ready for transition! We have several openings in the department of Enlarged Territory. We are looking for those that have a desire to transition from the state that they are in to the next level. We are seeking candidates who have been in a valley and are ready for possession and manifestation. Specific duties include fervent prayer, spiritual warfare, and occasional fasting. In the role of transition responsibilities include total trust in God and a flexible schedule, as travel may be required. Benefit package includes abundant blessings, miracles, signs, wonders, and overflow. 

Qualifications: Master’s degree in Faith; at least 2 years experience in spiritual discernment and serving others; at least 5 years experience in obedience; and a valid God issued driver’s license.

If you feel you meet the above qualifications click APPLY HERE to fill out the employment application. You may contact our HR department at 888-555-LOVE with any questions.

It’s time to transition! God is ready to transition us to win! Just like in Joshua 6:1-27, the walls falling down symbolized a transition. It was time to possess the land. I’m sure many of us are excited about our transition and ready to shout, but when God is ready to transition us from one phase in life to the next we have to be ready for the transition. With each new level comes a new devil!

Look at the job description above. We must have a degree in faith and experience in spiritual discernment, experience in obedience, and willingness to allow God to¬†drive¬†our lives. Everyone is not ready for transition. Those of us that are ready versus those of us that are not is according to our level of faith. In my own life, I have wanted God to transition me plenty of times. I have wanted¬†it so bad I would scream at God to “take me out of this place”. I was so tired of the fight…the constant battle, that at times I did not think I would ever win. But I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t qualified. My faith had not yet risen to the level to handle the position of transition. I did not meet the minimum requirements.¬†

Here is what I love about God….He holds our position for transition. Unlike jobs in the natural, if we do not qualify, there is a set closing date and employers move on to someone else that does qualify. When God is the¬†employer, He never allows someone else to take our position. He holds our position until we do what’s require to apply again…and again, and again, and again for some of us.

My family and I are currently in a transition phase. God is actively enlarging our territory. As I was spending some time with God, the Holy Spirit gave me this revelation on transition. Many times we pray fervently to God to “remove our mountains”, “get us out of this place”, or “God, just deliver me from this…” without a thought on the qualifications for the next phase that we ask for. Yes, transition has requirements. What God requires on our current level changes when we transition. On a natural job, have you ever known someone who had the qualifications for a higher level but remained in their current position? Sometimes people remain because of fear. Others remain because despite being qualified,they are not ready to succeed at the next level. God takes his time and prepares us for each new transition because he is¬†that¬†invested in our success.¬†

Get ready for your new position of transition. This is the right season and this is the right time. I want to encourage you to apply! Let’s pray…

Heavenly Father, prepare me for my position of transition. Thank you for holding my position until I was equipped to handle the job. Decrease my fear and increase my faith at this new level. For God I know with each new level comes new strategies of the enemy to distract me and make me quit on the job. Strengthen my spiritual muscles to handle the spiritual warfare that may come on this new level. Remind me of your love for me and help me to succeed in my role of transition so that I may continue to qualify for promotions!

Dr. TC

BLOG PRAYER REQUESTS!

jeremy-yap-199223-unsplashGreetings!

The Holy Spirt is challenging me to up my prayer game not for myself but for others. I am Saved to Serve (click link to read). Therefore I will post and repost this blog weekly to offer my time of prayer for YOUR requests. I love God and God’s people. You inspire me! What would you like me to pray for you? No request is too big or too small.

Leave your prayer requests in the comment section of this blog.

Blessings!

Dr. TC

 

Saved to Serve

serving others¬†¬†God tugged on your heart the day you got saved because he had a purpose he put in you. God knew your salvation confession was the key to the door specifically created for you. Picture in your mind an actual door with a keyhole. Imagine a beautiful ordained door in front of you with only one sign on it. You look closely and the sign reads, “Service Entry”. Behind the door is not the heaven you thought when you got saved, but a door that leads to a lifetime of service to others. You were not saved to just get to heaven. You were saved to serve.

God looks around the earth for dedicated partners who are passionate about serving God first, and God’s people second. God has designed a specific set of people that need your service. They need your unique set of talents and gifts. They need your intellect, your warm embrace, or your kind words. They need your monetary support or your wisdom.

Your salvation was the key to unlock your door and now your life is the key to unlock the door for others. Can you imagine losing the key to your home or vehicle and the person who finds it refuses to give it to you? You were designed to serve. Your title is not just your name. You are a Problem Solver, a Solution, and a Life Saver to many. Make it your life’s mission to find out who you were called to serve. As you meet the needs of others, I guarantee you God will meet your needs in ways you can’t fathom. All God needs is your commitment to a life of service. Let’s pray:

God our Father, I thank you for the gift of salvation. I thank you that my salvation unlocked the door in my life to be of service to others. God present opportunities for me to serve others in the manner in which you would have me serve. Father deliver me from selfishness so that I may serve others with a genuine heart. God thank you for creating me to be the key to unlock your blessings in the lives of others. And Father while I am serving others, help me to believe somebody somewhere out there will find me who has the key to unlock the blessings designed for my life! Amen.