Does it bring you JOY?

I watched a season of Tidying Up with Marie Kondo some time ago. If you are not familiar with this show, it is a home organization show with experienced organizer Marie Kondo who created the KonMari method to home organization. One of her organizational strategies in helping people declutter their lives is to ask a simple question, “Does it bring you joy?” If the answer is not a clear yes, then that item is let go, making room for the items that do actually bring joy and have value. The items could be an article of clothing, shoes, books, kitchen appliances, etc.

After months of watching this series, the simple question of “Does it bring you JOY” has sat with me. I have recently applied it to my life both personally and professionally. It has been an emotionally freeing journey thus far really…as I have spent a lot of time evaluating all the things that I spend time, money, and energy doing that really do not bring me joy. Can you witness to this reality? I have reached a point in my life where I am intentionally and fervently clearing out things, people included, that do not bring me joy. I’m finding myself in a process of doing such things as getting rid of articles of clothing, adjusting my professional roles & tasks, setting healthier boundaries with myself and others, separating myself from emotional weights and struggles that do not belong to me but someone else, re-committing myself to things I had previously let go of because of fear and intimidation. Listen, ya’ll…it is truly freeing. I am just beginning this journey, but the process of just mentally preparing for some decisions and actions I plan to make has already released so much weight.

It’s a simple question with a life-changing, powerful impact. I want to challenge you to take some time, reflect on every area of your life one by one and ask yourself…”Does it bring me JOY?” If the answer is no, not really, kind of, or sometimes, then I would say it’s a good time to re-evaluate and re-adjust to intentionally create time and space for more JOY in your life.

What are some things in your life you have already discovered that do not bring you JOY?

Journey to Joy,

Dr. TC

It’s For Your Health…

What is it about this phrase that kicks me into action? I serve my circle of influence and community with all things health and wellness. From leading a group fitness program, online total wellness support group, to providing skincare education and products as a “clean” beauty consultant with Beautycounter, I have realized that health is truly wealth. There are so many more opportunities afforded to you when you are in good health. Good health is not just what you eat, but also how you live. The mind, body, and spirit are so intertwined that what occurs in one area spills over into the next. The Bible says this about health…

I assume (and hope) most of us have been thinking more about our health in the past year since the pandemic manifested. Good health (in your mind, body, and spirit) is vital to abundant living. Good health is a shield and a ticket. Take heed when you hear the phrase “It’s for your health…” If it’s good for you, it’s worth your time and investment.

Live Well,

Dr. TC

Your Vibe Will Attract Your Tribe

What’s in YOU will attract what’s around YOU! Dr. TC

I heard this statement recently in my Beautycounter business meeting I attended earlier this week, and it really STRUCK and STUCK with me. I immediately began to mentally scan the spaces I occupy and the people in those spaces. I will say, after many years of dealing with lost friendships, navigating challenging relationships, etc. I am happy with the circles in which I presently interact. I am surrounded by some really good people with mutual reciprocity.

What’s your vibe? Are you attracting the tribe you desire? Attracting the tribe you desire first begins with becoming the person you want to be. Positive energy attracts positive experiences and relationships; as goes for negative energy attracts negative experiences and relationships.

I would characterize my present tribe like this:

✨Entrepreneurers 😜

✨Leaders

✨Game changers

✨Go getters

✨Never give upers 😉

✨Innovators

✨Passionate givers

✨Money makers

✨God walkers

✨Faith builders

✨BIG Dreamers

When you find the right people to connect with there is great reward in your connection experiences, even if you don’t live in the same city or talk every day. When you do get together, it’s like a breath of fresh air. You just fit…quite comfortably!

What’s your vibe? How would you describe your tribe?

Dr. TC

Hello Passions

I don’t care how busy I am, when I am busying myself with things I am passionate about, it never seems like work. Dr. TC

I have recently been introduced and re-introduced to things I am passionate about. What I am discovering about passions is that they lead to purpose. Passions are things that you are drawn to and that, in many ways, come natural to you. Passions are often first manifested in your mind and in your spirit as a thought. Have you ever had some goal or dream in your mind that you can’t seem to stop thinking about? Have you ever thought on something so deeply and intensely, you can physically feel yourself having or being in that place? Passions create these imaginative experiences.

So, how does imagination relate to reality?

Scripture tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 (KJV), “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalted itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ…” The same scripture in the Message bible says, “We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ.” In looking at these scriptures, we see that we have power over what we choose to think, our imagination. Additionally, what we choose to think on determines what we become. God desires us to think how He thinks about us. For example, if I can imagine myself a millionaire, I will become one because my thoughts will lead me to my passions, which will lead me to my purpose and destiny. Scripture also tells us, God will not put more on us than we can bare. If I couldn’t bare being a millionaire, then God wouldn’t even give me the thought I could be one! He knows what you can handle. I read something about imagination that was so powerful…Imagination is like a software that programs our behavior, expectations and actions.

I believe this is the season to chase after your passions. This is the season to think as big as you can. This is the season to move in the direction of your imaginations.

What are you passionate about?

  • Owning your own business?
  • Being debt free?
  • Being a stay at home mom?
  • A certain career?
  • Being on tv?
  • Buying a house?
  • Being a parent?
  • Owning multiple businesses?
  • Becoming a partner?
  • Traveling?
  • Serving others?

Say hello to your passions. Whatever your passions, be intentional about thinking on those things every day. Your thoughts will pull you into the direction of your passions, giving you the power to become what you imagine to be!

Hello Passions,

Dr. TC

This week, I Held My Black Son and Cried…

I wasn’t expecting to experience what happened on this week. I have a very inquisitive 3-year-old son who, surprisingly, is very interested in what is going on in the world. He doesn’t want to miss out on anything. We were reviewing who Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was and how the day we celebrate his life and legacy is coming up. He asked what happened to him and I shared that he was assassinated. Of course, he then wanted to know what assassinated meant. After a series of more questions about how the assassination happened, who did it and why…he compelled me to pray for Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I hesitantly told him there was no need to pray for him because he was already dead. He continued to insist, so I obliged. As the words began to escape his heart, it certainly landed on mine. He began to pray for Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and the man who assassinated him. He also began to pray for the men who attacked the Capitol and that they would stop shooting and hurting people. He prayed they would love like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. And he sealed his prayer by asking God to let all people in the world love Him.

His prayer was earnest. His prayer was confident. He was not anxious, worried, or seemed distressed. He honestly prayed for a better world with no doubt God couldn’t make it happen.

With tears in my eyes, I picked him up, hugged him, and cried. Through my tears, I began to grieve having a black son in this country and in this world. I felt inadequate in protecting him from the evil he prayed so earnestly against. I also felt hope. I also felt encouraged. And best of all, I was empowered by my 3-year-old to not only continue to honor the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr….but continue the fight to make his DREAM come true. It was evident, my 3-year-old did not consider it a dream, but prayed it into existence.

My hope is that we all intentionally celebrate unity in the midst of division, peace in the midst of chaos, and hope in the midst of uncertainty.

Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day,

Dr. TC

An unusual day…

Yesterday…1/6/21, was an unusual day. It started with parenting challenges that escalated throughout the day. Frustration was at a high. I felt defeated, discouraged, because my efforts to rectify situations and behaviors were failing over and over. Something was unusual. The enemy felt near. I decided just that morning before starting the day to choose happiness no matter the circumstances. I should have known any commitment to peace, joy, or sincere happiness would trigger the enemy’s attempts to divert my plans and take back what was uttered from my spirit…what was in alignment with God’s will and character. It didn’t matter the subject was a 3-year-old, the enemy sensed victory and could not leave well enough alone. John 10:10 (KJV) says, “The thief cometh not, but to steal, and to kill, and to destroy…” I should have known something bigger and greater was at hand. I knew something just didn’t feel quite right about the day.

I’m out of the house completing the day’s tasks, when news alerts hit my phone of a growing mob of people at the Capitol building, violating the building and the grounds and NO law enforcement in sight. I repeat NO. The reporter at the scene spoke with shock and dismay at what was transpiring openly, boldly, and without any form of resistance. The news was…paralyzing. I felt frustrated and defeated. Then I realized this was a familiar feeling. This was the same feeling that started with the events earlier in the day. I was warned. The same enemy attempting to destroy me, was the same enemy attempting to destroy the nation. I was warned. I see many stating “this was a sad day.” This was not a sad day. A day in November, 4 years ago was a sad day as an American, particularly as a Black American. I was warned.

I was privy to the knowledge of God through my own personal experiences. I know whatever purpose God has for me is greater than I could imagine. John 10:10 (KJV) also states, “…I have come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” For the record, my 3-year-old is fine. Because ultimately, it wasn’t about my 3-year-old, it was about me. The same grace and mercy extended to me time and time again, I extended to my 3-year-old. Tomorrow is a new day and I was warned on today. I now have new strategies to help me defeat the enemy trying to devour my purpose.

America, on the other hand, are you willing to use the strategies given to you to devour the enemy? You were warned. The Charlotte riots were a warning. Breonna Taylor was a warning. Ahmaud Arbery was a warning. George Floyd was a warning. The events of this presidential election are not a surprise to me. America was warned. Heed the warnings. There is a greater purpose for your existence. Do you realize our country was created for a purpose? God is speaking to you.

This was an unusual day. And, an unusual day requires unusual strategies for an unusual victory. I plan to win.

Dr. TC

Time is Not Found…it’s Made.

As there are only a few days left in this year, it’s important to think on how you will choose to spend the months, days, and hours of 2021. Matter of fact, how will you choose to spend the next 3 days? I’ve always believed that how a person spends their time demonstrates what they really value. Learn to align your time with your values. Each day reflect on your day and how you spent each hour of the day.

Intentionally make time for what you value in life. Don’t let the excuse “I don’t have time” hold you back from goals and dreams. Time doesn’t wait. Time is never lost. So don’t try to find time for the important things in life…make it.

Dr. TC

Dissatisfied yet Grateful

At face value, it may seem impossible to be dissatisfied and grateful at the same time. This is my current state in life and I am learning to use gratefulness as a strategy. Gratefulness is not just a state of mind but an intervention. Gratefulness is also like a medicine that lessens the pain of dissatisfaction in life. Gratefulness gives you the strength to keep being, doing, and pursuing. Philippians 4: 6-7 (AMP) states, “Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].” In this, I believe God desires to shift our focus away from what has not yet happened, what does not make us happy, and what we have not been able to accomplish and instead focus on what God has already done, is doing, and will do when we continue to persevere through the pain. God asks that we lift our dissatisfactions up to Him in earnest prayer and He will give us peace. I recently read a statement by Anthony Iannarino that said, “The trick to being happy and successful is to be grateful and pleased even while you are striving for something more.” In my own life, each moment I focus on the things I am grateful for, the pain of dissatisfaction lessens.

To those living with dissatisfaction, make a list of all the things you DO NOT WANT TO CHANGE about your life. These are the things to focus on and be grateful for as you continue on your journey in life.

Dr. TC

25 Powerful Daily Affirmation Statements for 2021

  1. God spares my life because my life has purpose.
  2. The hard things in life are not too difficult for me to handle.
  3. I CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians. 4:13)
  4. What I believe is possible will happen.
  5. I will not compare myself to others and dismiss my greatness.
  6. I am powerful beyond words.
  7. Good people will be attracted to me because I am good to myself.
  8. I have hope that what looks bad will get better.
  9. I will use my creative mind to put my future on a canvas.
  10. I will live well, eat well, and do well for myself and others.
  11. I deserve all the good things that are coming to me.
  12. I know that life and death over me and my situation are in my tongue, so I will only speak good things over me and my life.
  13. I am a valuable item that can never be replaced.
  14. My worth is priceless.
  15. My courage is my superpower.
  16. What I fear is not bigger than my faith.
  17. I was created by love; therefore, I am loved and will love myself more each day.
  18. I write my destiny with my words.
  19. Goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life. (Psalm 23:6)
  20. I am more than what has happened to me.
  21. Everything I need to win in life is inside of me.
  22. My belief in better will attract better to my life.
  23. My wisdom never fails.
  24. I am being healed right now from the inside out.
  25. I am adequate.

Developed by Dr. TC